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How to pick yourself back up after an unexpected setback

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/TP-SOvZfWzI/AAAAAAAAAw0/le3qi2EUlPI/s1600/20081101192246.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="246" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/TP-SOvZfWzI/AAAAAAAAAw0/le3qi2EUlPI/s320/20081101192246.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.weheartit.com/">www.weheartit.com</a></div><br />As the lyrics from the song Collide by Howie day, "even the best fall down sometimes". As someone who rarely fails and always manages to achieve her goals I have recently suffered a setback. But more than that its the humiliation and the embarrassment that is haunting me the most. I am someone who has a tendency to beat myself up about things that don't work out. So, I'm trying my best to keep my head up and move on swiftly and placing things in order so that I can quickly fill up the void left by my failure.<br /><br />Here are a few things that I am implementing to get me through this setback:<br /><br />1.) ACTION: When I realized what had happened I quickly started to make inquires about what was to happen next. As well as this I also started looking into new opportunities.<br /><br />2.) CRY: A good cry is sometimes a must, but don't dwell. Let yourself be sad and disappointed or whatever the feeing may be but get back up again. Hold that head high and put your thinking cap on.<br /><br />3.) MUSIC: Music is something that can really have a profound effect on your mood and state of mind. So choose music that keeps your spirits up or that inspires you.<br /><br />4.) ME TIME: Take a break from those around you. Regroup, take a bit of time to lick your wounds and be tender with yourself. Don't sit and wallow but acknowledge your feelings and get yourself a bit of a break, treat yourself like you would your best friend.<br /><br />5.) PLAN: Start a plan of action. Evaluate the situation, the damage and your options and alternative routes. Write it all down and start moving in a new direction. Research, make phone calls and send emails to those who you think could possible open new doors for you.<br /><br />What do you do when you are faced with a setback? How do you pick up the pieces?<br /><br /><img src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_t5Wvjfo3y5o/S--2WYmnvbI/AAAAAAAABQw/nwe6MAK0glM/digital%20signature.png" width="100" />

How to pick yourself back up after an unexpected setback

www.weheartit.com As the lyrics from the song Collide by Howie day, "even the best fall down sometimes". As someone who rarely fai...

6:12 AM

Getting to know you

<div style="text-align: center;"><img alt="Tumblr_l59s5qjjig1qblg7bo1_500_large" src="http://whi.s3.prod.lg1x8.simplecdn.net/images/2980454/tumblr_l59s5qjjiG1qblg7bo1_500_large.png?1278986055" /></div><br />With recent events in my life, things have been a bit rough for me. That saying, "what doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger" is rather a frustrating concept for me right now because I'm not dead yet but I sure am tired of "getting stronger". But on the up side of these down times one comes to many realization and one of them that has occurred to me is the fact that I need to be more decisive and firm in the small things that make up the me that I present to the world. My tiny quirks, likes, dislikes, values, morals and opinions. Values and morals for the most part I have never had a problem with, there are simply things that I don't waver on in my own quiet way but I think that I maybe need to define the simpler, more fun and frivolous things about myself and cement them into who I am a bit more :)<br /><br />So, here are a few frivolous bits of know how about me :)<br /><br /><br /><ul><li>I am a strictly chocolate girl, no vanilla, no strawberry</li><li>When it comes to really jewelry I will only buy and wear silver or white gold (which looks exactly like silver?!) not gold, but when it comes to general costume jewelry and accessories I will add a splash of gold</li><li>I love interesting and funky clothes, shoes, and handbags, things that are out of the ordinary, even if its simply the fact that there is patterned material inside the shoe.</li><li>I like to learn, (what a nerd), not necessarily study, but to learn about new things</li><li>One thing that I have learnt about myself recently, and I do realize this sounds very self congratulatory, is the fact that I can do all those things that I doubt about my self. I recently tried out a new job in something that is so opposite of my personality that all my friends where shocked but I had the greatest time and I held my own and it was something I never though I could do but I did it. And so having survived that I now know that there are few things I cannot do successfully. </li><li>I've recently discovered that I am in fact a big fan of my lips and they are fast becoming my new favorite feature :)</li><li>Whilst I am somewhat of a shy person I do love to meet new people and makes friends in my own way</li><li>I don't define myself by a "relationship status" I'm not single or in a relationship, what counts in whether or not you have a special person in your life to talk to and share time with and that can't be labeled, boxed or be given a "status"</li><li>I am strictly a cat person, dogs aren't bad but cats are better!</li><li>Just because I don't say everything I think or prefer to sit back and observe a situation does not mean that there isn't a lot going on in my head, I just don't always feel compelled to blurt everything out all the time</li><li>I'm a total techno nerd, I wanted to study web design and IT </li><li>I love to travel but I don't want to do it alone anymore, the next trip I take has to involve someone else</li><li>I love music but can never remember the names of songs or artists</li><li>I'm a morning person but I can be night person too but in order to stay awake I need to stay busy and watching movies late at night puts me to sleep</li><li>I am unfortunately I big quantity over quality person, something I am really trying to curb</li><li>I love to read but don't get too much time for it any more :(</li><li>I am an organisation and planning freak but only about certain areas of my life</li><li>I love food and eating and all things sweet </li><li>I need to learn to alter my own perception of myself and see myself as the 24yr old professional that I am instead of an 18year old teenager and treat myself accordingly</li></ul><div>So there are a few tidbits about myself :) Are there any things about yourself that you have recently learned or things that you need to assert about yourself more?</div><div><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><img src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_t5Wvjfo3y5o/S--2WYmnvbI/AAAAAAAABQw/nwe6MAK0glM/digital%20signature.png" width="100" />

Getting to know you

With recent events in my life, things have been a bit rough for me. That saying, "what doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger...

6:20 AM

Book Club - Twenties Girl

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/TEwfwnJjCBI/AAAAAAAAAv4/O2iTJmJ_wgU/s1600/thumbnailgenerator.ashx.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><br /><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/TEwfwnJjCBI/AAAAAAAAAv4/O2iTJmJ_wgU/s320/thumbnailgenerator.ashx.png" /></a></div>I would like to start out by saying thank you very much to all my lovely readers for being so patient. I do apologize for being MIA for the past few weeks. Its been a bit of a tough time for me, hopefully the worst is over and things can and will only get better from here on out.<br /><br />For this months book club I would like to introduce you to the novel that has been keeping me company for the past two weeks.....<br /><br />Its the latest novel by Sophie Kisella, author of the <a href="http://ellainspired.blogspot.com/2010/02/book-club-guest-review-of-confessions.html">Shopaholics</a> series, Twenties Girl.<br /><br />It really is a delightful story of a young women, called Lara, who is haunted by a 23 year old ghost version of her dead great-grandmother that only she can see. Together the two of them embark on a whirlwind of adventures and Lara achieves the impossible by learning a valuable lesson from her dead relative.<br /><br />I real easy read that lets you escape and keeps you smiling. The perfect novel to enjoy poolside whilst on holiday :) Get your copy <a href="http://astore.amazon.com/e0fa0-20/detail/0385342039">HERE</a><br /><br /><br /><img src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_t5Wvjfo3y5o/S--2WYmnvbI/AAAAAAAABQw/nwe6MAK0glM/digital%20signature.png" width="100" />

Book Club - Twenties Girl

I would like to start out by saying thank you very much to all my lovely readers for being so patient. I do apologize for being MIA for the ...

4:29 AM

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**Sprinkling a little bit of sunshine into your day and hoping all your dreams come true**

4:24 AM

Better Days

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/TCcwtCWAEJI/AAAAAAAAAvw/YmTjoE8dxas/s1600/20090227135438.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/TCcwtCWAEJI/AAAAAAAAAvw/YmTjoE8dxas/s320/20090227135438.jpg" /></a></div><br /><br />Just a note to say thank you to all you lovely ladies for your comments and support. I've had a bit of a rough week but to day is a bit of a better say and I'm really trying to pick myself back up again. If only every time life hands you lemons you could pack a bag and fly off to somewhere great and have an amazing holiday from your life for a week, wouldn't it be great if that was the way that life worked...... :) I really wish I could come and visit you guys all around the world an meet everyone in person, wouldn't that be great! Maybe one day when I win the lotto, hehe.<br /><br />So, here is hoping that each and every one of you is having a fabulous day!!<br />Love and hugs<br /><br /><img src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_t5Wvjfo3y5o/S--2WYmnvbI/AAAAAAAABQw/nwe6MAK0glM/digital%20signature.png" width="100" />

Better Days

Just a note to say thank you to all you lovely ladies for your comments and support. I've had a bit of a rough week but to day is a bit ...

4:06 AM

Personal Position

Personal Position

I've had a little bit of a personal set back of late that has me really confused and upset and questioning a lot of things. I'm real...

1:28 AM

June Baby

<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;"><br /></span></span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S_ZdhjJhEHI/AAAAAAAAAvI/zIII38Llm-I/s1600/345653550_174ea0e14f.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S_ZdhjJhEHI/AAAAAAAAAvI/zIII38Llm-I/s320/345653550_174ea0e14f.jpg" /></a></div><br />As a June Baby there are ups and downs, one up being that I get presents every six months or so, hehe, a downside is that it is in the winter holidays so everyone usually goes on holiday and so no one is around to celebrate with me :(<br /><br />For the month of June this is what I plan to accomplish:<br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #e06666;"><b>Get my research project done and dusted</b></span><br />This my very first research article I have ever done and it is very daunting! SO much to do and next to no time to do it in!!!<br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #e06666;"><b>Have an amazing birthday </b></span><br />As I mentioned above not many people are around when it comes to my birthday and it usually upsets me quite a bit and I while I love organizing something for my birthday everyone ends up cancelling on me :( So this year I have planned my own day with the one or two people in my life who mean I know will be there regardless :)<br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #e06666;"><b>Find a new job</b></span><br />There are days when I enjoy my job and quite a few where I hate it but the fear of not finding a new one holds me back from quiting and of course the fact that I need money for food ect, haha. So, this month I am seriously going to hunt around for something better. I don't mind having large amounts of responsibility if I am paid accordingly.....<br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #e06666;"><b>Get all my applications in order for next year</b></span><br />I barely started the year and I was stressing about what I was going to do next year and I'm still stressing. I have decided to send out all my applications ASAP and see what comes of it. Then I can make a decision based on what I get accepted for, a much more realistic situation to deal with.<br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #e06666;"><b><br /></b></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #e06666;"><b>What are you goals for June? Anyone else a June Baby? :)</b></span><br /><br /><br /><img src="http://lh4.ggpht.com/_t5Wvjfo3y5o/S--2WYmnvbI/AAAAAAAABQw/nwe6MAK0glM/digital%20signature.png" width="100" />

June Baby

As a June Baby there are ups and downs, one up being that I get presents every six months or so, hehe, a downside is that it is in the winte...

1:00 AM

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Image Have an inspirational day :)

5:04 AM

Things that brighten my day

Things that brighten my day

wearing candy coloured nail polish eating chocolate filler coffee first thing in the morning scented candles bright lipstick fresh flowers r...

1:00 AM

Dealing with a crisis

<div style="text-align: center;"><img src="http://www.yaysports.com/nba/wp-content/uploads/sos.jpg" /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.yaysports.com/nba/wp-content/uploads/sos.jpg">Image</a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>We have all been in the situation where a friend calls us up in tears and asks for our help. Whether it be that they broke up with their boyfriend or their parents are getting divorced to they are being retrenched, its a situation we know well.<br /><br />What do you do, what do you say? How do you help them deal with the crisis. We all want to say and the right thing and solve the problem but sometimes it not that easy.<br /><br />The anatomy of a crisis:<br />Stage one is the Pre-crisis stage<br /> - the person is living their life as per usual and is dealing with problems effectively.<br /><br />Stage two is the crisis stage<br /> - an event or a set of circumstances has arisen which presents its self as a crisis for the person and they are in a dark place in their life.<br /><br />It is here that is important to have a brief awareness of the 6 phases of the crisis cycle. The reason for this is so that you can identify where your friend is in the cycle and effectively help them at the point at which they are at.<br /><br />The Crisis Cycle:<br />1.) Denial - This can't be happening<br />2.) Bargaining - Maybe if I do this then....<br />3.) Anger - Its his fault!<br /><br />4.) Depression - It is extremely important to differential here between SITUATIONAL depression and CLINICAL depression. As someone helping a friend through a crisis we CANNOT deal with clinical depression. There is a huge and notable difference!<br /><br />5.)  Acceptance - Its happened, I can't change it<br />6.) Resolution - Moving on with my life<br /><br />Stage 3 is the Post-Crisis stage<br />- The crisis has been resolved and one of three things could result. The person has an increased coping ability, the same level of ability or a lowered level of ability.<br /><br />Always remember that despite the situation the person in crisis has strengths and theses should be highlighted before leaving that persons side so that they see a glimmer of hope and and use those strengths to propose a plan of action. Also, always remember to let that person vent and get rid of their feelings.<br /><br />*eLLa*

Dealing with a crisis

Image We have all been in the situation where a friend calls us up in tears and asks for our help. Whether it be that they broke up with the...

3:05 PM

How To Tackle A Major Wardrobe Makeover - Part Two

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S74qQ3di13I/AAAAAAAAArw/mq_0xpYDkQw/s1600/199193.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S74qQ3di13I/AAAAAAAAArw/mq_0xpYDkQw/s320/199193.jpg" /></a></div><br /><br />In my own wardrobe makeover I have discovered the following things:<br /><br /><ol><li>I have out grown my current wardrobe (figuratively) </li><li>My taste in clothes have changed</li><li>My needs are different</li><li>My life is a lot more multi-purpose</li></ol>After looking through my own sources of inspiration, a large amount which actually came from observing the clients I deal with on a day to day basis at the boutique I work at, and noting what I am drawn to I realized that my wardrobe does in no way reflect my shift in taste. It is sorely lacking in the pieces that I love and that in order to feel more like dressing up and looking fabulous everyday I need to be inspired and coaxed by every item in closet.<br /><br />PLAN OF ACTION<br /><br />My aim: To foster a wardrobe full of unique, quirky and inspirational pieces that can be mixed and matched to allow for a fabulous look everyday.<br /><br />Goal: To purge my closet of any item which I do not love and buy only items that are special and that I am in love with otherwise its not worth my time and money.<br /><br />Realistically, I cannot throw out 90% of my wardrobe at this point otherwise I will be left with nothing to wear thus, I am making four piles: love, like, get rid of and tailor.<br /><br />Love - is obviously the gems that I am crazy about and make me feel fabulous<br />Like - are pieces that I wear often and that I need to a certain degree but that do not make me feel amazing but will discard as I replace them<br />Get rid of - pieces that I don't wear or do not like what so ever<br />Tailor - pieces that you need to have adjusted in order to wear them<br /><br />I have already started the purchasing process and got myself a few one of a kind items that I am crazy about and know I will wear all the time. While a few were pricey the cost per wear and the knowledge that with these garments I am prepared for any occasion never having to face the "I have nothing to wear" situation made them worth every cent.<br /><br />I already have a general idea of the clothes I am going to purge, it always a good idea to be aware of the different areas in your life and sort everything accordingly. Eg, work, casual, formal, sporty ect. If you have a job where you need old clothes to get dirty in or a job like a dance/yoga teacher where you need comfortable clothes this all needs to be taken into account and you should sort and purge accordingly.<br /><br />Whilst shopping:<br /><br /><ul><li>do it with purpose</li><li>be picky</li><li>try new shops</li><li>try new styles, colours and combinations</li><li>purchase a few treasured items as opposed to lots of "like" items</li><li>look before buying (ask sales people to hold things for you, you can always come back)</li><li>always try on before buying</li></ul><div>This process is actually very therapeutic :) I hope these tips helped and if you are currently busy with your own purge, do comment and share your thoughts!</div><div><br /></div><div><i>*eLLa*</i></div>

How To Tackle A Major Wardrobe Makeover - Part Two

In my own wardrobe makeover I have discovered the following things: I have out grown my current wardrobe (figuratively) My taste in clothes...

12:11 PM

Learning to Love Yourself

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S7b2bdCDG_I/AAAAAAAAArY/JQx8u_1LBj0/s1600/tumblr_l0a82d1WKA1qakr18o1_400_large.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S7b2bdCDG_I/AAAAAAAAArY/JQx8u_1LBj0/s320/tumblr_l0a82d1WKA1qakr18o1_400_large.jpg" /></a></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><i>I found this really great article on Article Alley and thought I would share it with you. </i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i><br /></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">Have you ever looked at people in your life, or even complete strangers on the street, and wondered why they are always so happy, and what you can do to be happy like them? All of us at one time or another feel the need to be more excited about our lives and more satisfied with ourselves. Happiness starts with appreciating ourselves for who we are, which means you need to take steps to fall in love with yourself, after all who else will love you if you don't love yourself?</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">1. Start dreaming</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">Get yourself a big sheet of paper, a pen, some magazines and some scissors and glue. Now sit down and think about your dreams; whether it's to live in a penthouse apartment, or to meet your soul mate and have 2.4 children or just to have a long and relaxing vacation, pluck that dream from your mind's eye and capture it on paper. Cut out pictures from the magazines and use them to create a dream board. Now you can see exactly what it is that you wish for in life and you can take steps to make those dreams come true.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">2. Make a map</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">Have you ever travelled to a new location? A place you had never been before? I'm sure you have at some point in time and I bet you didn't do it without a map or a set of directions. Achieving your dream is the same as reaching that destination, you won't get there until you plan your journey and break it down into small steps that you can accomplish day by day.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">3. Live in today</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">Now that you have captured where you want to be tomorrow, or next year, you need to start living in today. Buy yourself a beautiful journal, something that you will want to write your thoughts in and each and every day write down at least one thing that happened to you. It doesn't matter whether the experience was good or bad, what matters is what you did as a result and how you learned from it. Learning from those experiences will shape the journey towards learning how to love yourself and achieving your dreams.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">4. See the best in you</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">We all have flaws but for most of us that is all we see when we look at ourselves in the mirror. You might think that you're too tall or too short, too fat, or too thin,. But today you need to see the best in you. Stand in front of that mirror and see yourself through the eyes of a stranger; perhaps you have a great hair style, or a pretty smile.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">Ask your closest friends and family what they like about your personality; perhaps you are kind, or funny or the person they always turn to when they need comforting. Write down you five best bits in your journal or diary and reread them each and every day to remind yourself what is good about you.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;">By capturing your dreams and planning your journey to your destination you will learn more about your innermost thoughts and desires and living into will give you the experience you need to make that dream a reality. Forgetting about your flaws and focusing on your best bits will make you realise how other people see you. Take action with these activities today and you will learn how to love yourself and in turn find the happiness you dream of.</span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #46728c; font-size: 14px;"><strong>This article is free for republishing</strong></span></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #46728c; font-size: 14px;"><strong><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><strong>Source: <a href="http://www.articlealley.com/article_1484040_24.html" style="color: #46728c; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 14px; text-decoration: none;">http://www.articlealley.com/article_1484040_24.html</a></strong></span></strong></span></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #46728c; font-size: 14px;"><strong><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><br /></span></strong></span></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 14px;"><i>*eLLa*</i></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 13px; font-style: normal;"><br /></span></i></div>

Learning to Love Yourself

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How was your day.......

<div style="text-align: center;">A quick peak into my day....... :)</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xP5bvJmbI/AAAAAAAAAlc/eEW98aCdYsA/s1600-h/IMG_1112.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xP5bvJmbI/AAAAAAAAAlc/eEW98aCdYsA/s320/IMG_1112.JPG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xQlM1_eGI/AAAAAAAAAls/H64QRAydavw/s1600-h/IMG_1113.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xQlM1_eGI/AAAAAAAAAls/H64QRAydavw/s320/IMG_1113.JPG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xRBiD4P_I/AAAAAAAAAl8/adR32U1EliM/s1600-h/IMG_1115.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xRBiD4P_I/AAAAAAAAAl8/adR32U1EliM/s320/IMG_1115.JPG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xQM1PQGXI/AAAAAAAAAlk/vlJTkP7lqs8/s1600-h/IMG_1114.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xQM1PQGXI/AAAAAAAAAlk/vlJTkP7lqs8/s320/IMG_1114.JPG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xPGU8xUJI/AAAAAAAAAlE/guYSa8PA-aQ/s1600-h/IMG_1116.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xPGU8xUJI/AAAAAAAAAlE/guYSa8PA-aQ/s320/IMG_1116.JPG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xQzq5NfAI/AAAAAAAAAl0/E9A0TyVaE7U/s1600-h/IMG_1118.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xQzq5NfAI/AAAAAAAAAl0/E9A0TyVaE7U/s320/IMG_1118.JPG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xRMruHoGI/AAAAAAAAAmE/foqacrQ5t3Q/s1600-h/IMG_1124.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xRMruHoGI/AAAAAAAAAmE/foqacrQ5t3Q/s320/IMG_1124.JPG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xPl5D9oRI/AAAAAAAAAlU/1AHCqgB6tMg/s1600-h/IMG_1128.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S3xPl5D9oRI/AAAAAAAAAlU/1AHCqgB6tMg/s320/IMG_1128.JPG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">How was your day?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">*eLLa*</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>

How was your day.......

A quick peak into my day....... :) How was your day? *eLLa*

12:32 PM

Outfit inspirations

I have in the past always been a bit shy about letting out some pf my really taste in clothing and since my mom and sister always had the same taste and I was the "odd one out" so to speak they would buy a lot of my clothes. However, in the last few years I have more and more started to buy my own stuff and wear outfits that are me. In my<a href="http://ellainspired.blogspot.com/2010/01/shopping-mantra-for-2010.html"> last post</a> I discussed my new showing approach and have been busy making lists and searching for inspiration.<br /><br />Here are a few outfits I have created with pieces I want in my ideal wardrobe :)<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><img alt="look image" src="http://cdn.looklet.com/static/looks/2010/02/03/10/88b858d7-2ac1-41ff-90a1-9d8d32fb17db.jpg?1" /></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><img alt="look image" src="http://cdn.looklet.com/static/looks/2010/01/07/13/8129081d-ea33-4da6-8c68-b0514760e429.jpg?1" /></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><img alt="look image" src="http://cdn.looklet.com/static/looks/2010/01/07/13/c0033647-8c04-46b9-b23c-be3a4421f5fb.jpg?1" /></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;">What look are you wanting to incorporate into your wardrobe this year?</div><div style="text-align: center;">Leave a comment :)</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">*eLLa*</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>

Outfit inspirations

I have in the past always been a bit shy about letting out some pf my really taste in clothing and since my mom and sister always had the sa...

11:13 PM

Goals for 2010 - Starting with myself

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S0BXkZ0LkpI/AAAAAAAAAgQ/CybuSsqKbPc/s1600-h/tumblr_kvibnsfxyA1qa7d6eo1_500_large.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" ps="true" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/S0BXkZ0LkpI/AAAAAAAAAgQ/CybuSsqKbPc/s320/tumblr_kvibnsfxyA1qa7d6eo1_500_large.jpg" /></a><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://weheartit.com/entry/1248230">picture</a><br /></div><br />As the New Year signals "a clean slate" so to speak it is a good time to start deciding what you would like to achieve. While I personally have so many things that I want to do this year it has resulted in somewhat of a confusion in my mind as to how I am going to be able to do everything and when I am going to get everything done. Also in true me style the year has scarcely begun and I have been stressing about what my next move is, where do i go from here, what am I going to do when I graduate at the end of the year? What am I going to do my masters in? Am I going to be going overseas? Can I get a bursary? Should I wait and go overseas next year? These thoughts are all whizzing through my head at 100 miles an hour. <br /><br /><div style="text-align: left;">So, I thought I would start small. With myself and leave the rest of it for another day. <br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">This year I want to start taking care of myself. I want to make sure that I face each day looking and feeling the very best that I can whether I am going out, at work or in doors for the day studying. <br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">So I want to:<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">1.) Get up each week day at 7:30<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">2.) Eat breakfast everyday<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">3.) Get dressed and look presentable everyday no matter what I have planned<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">4.) Take my vitamins everyday<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">5.) Watch the news every morning so I am on top of world events<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">6.) Say my affirmations daily while I get ready<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">*******************************************************<br /><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">7.) Work on defining my style with pupose and designing a closet around that<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">8.) Buying fewer pieces and saving up money to shop instead of buying frivolous items on a whim<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">9.) I want to have fun with my hair and try a few new styles<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">10.) I want to start painting my nails and giving myself weekly mani's and pedi's<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">11.) I want to get my eyebrows professionally shaped<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">12.) I want to learn how to do my make up professionally <br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">These are the thingst to treat myself to, to start the year. The rest of my worries and anxieties can take a backseat for now.<br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><em>What are some ways or things that you want to treat yourself to or accomplish this year? Let me know, leave a comment :)</em><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><em>*eLLa*</em><br /></div><div align="right" style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>

Goals for 2010 - Starting with myself

picture As the New Year signals "a clean slate" so to speak it is a good time to start deciding what you would like to achieve. Wh...

12:39 AM

16 Things

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/Ss2iAHZn0cI/AAAAAAAAANY/7xXkV7h2D9c/s1600-h/811216.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/Ss2iAHZn0cI/AAAAAAAAANY/7xXkV7h2D9c/s320/811216.png" /></a><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Inspired by the myriad of lovely bloggers out there with their "list of things to do before my next birthday" I have jumped on the bandwagon. Since I'm a little late to the game and my 24th birthday is now 8 months away and not 12, I have decided to make a list of 16 things (2/3 of 24) as opposed to 24. And here they are:<br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><ol><li>Go on a wine tasting tour</li><li>Go to a cheese tasting</li><li>Visit the chocolate factory in Frachoek :)</li><li>Read a classic novel like Emma or Jane Eyre</li><li>Do a capsule wardrobe project for a month</li><li>Shop at a vintage/second hand store and buy something <br /></li><li>Go a month without spending on anything but food and essential living expenses</li><li>Go up Table Mountain</li><li>Go on a bus tour of the city</li><li>Visit the penguins at Boulders Beach</li><li>Complete 6 months worth of Project 365 (I have unfortunately fallen horribly behind, oooops)</li><li>Find and apply for a minimum of 5 bursaries for overseas study</li><li>Start training to complete in Intervarsity (inter-university dance competition)</li><li>Learn how to start a fire (for braai purposes aka a barbeque)</li><li>Learn how to sew with a sewing machine</li><li>Open an Etsy store</li></ol>So, there they are. I am definitely motivated to complete my list along with all the other goals I have set for myself for the coming year. Wish me luck :)<br /><br /><i>Have any of you got a list of things to do before your next birthday? If so, what are they? How do you keep your motivation going for projects like these? Leave a comment! :)</i><br /><br /><i>*eLLa*</i><br /><i> </i>

16 Things

Inspired by the myriad of lovely bloggers out there with their "list of things to do before my next birthday" I have jumped on the...

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Ask eLLa

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/Ssr1lcshN5I/AAAAAAAAAMQ/regLVs7O_RI/s1600-h/20081023122509.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/Ssr1lcshN5I/AAAAAAAAAMQ/regLVs7O_RI/s320/20081023122509.jpg" /></a><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">Im going to be starting a new section on the blog called "Ask *eLLa*". This involves everything from asking me to write a post about a particular topic, to help with find websites, places to shop, how do something to more personal problems and agony aunt type questions. I love to help and am a wealth of useful information, so use me :)<br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">You can leave a question in the comment section or email me (<a href="mailto:ella.elephant@gmail.com">ella.elephant@gmail.com</a>) with more personal requests which I will keep anonymous. Don't hold back, I love getting feedback from you guys!<br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i>Have a fabulous day and I cant wait to hear from you!</i><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i>*eLLa*</i><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i> </i><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i> </i><br /></div>

Ask *eLLa*

Im going to be starting a new section on the blog called "Ask *eLLa*". This involves everything from asking me to write a post abo...

12:49 AM

PROJECT INDEPENDENCE

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/SrsYG2R5cBI/AAAAAAAAAKI/rss6rZC4Z2M/s1600-h/716728.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/SrsYG2R5cBI/AAAAAAAAAKI/rss6rZC4Z2M/s320/716728.jpg" /></a><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">This past year has been a hard one for me as I planned on it being something completely different to what it turned out and have really been struggling with the sense of failure that has been lingering as a result. This same feeling I feel is what is holding me back from turning what I had left of the year into a success and what is standing in the way of making me feel like I can make next year a success. I am one of those people who has never really failed at things that I have attempted. I've always completed the tasks put before me so when I made plans to go overseas for a year I just assumed that I would be able to do.<br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Unfortunately, I failed miserably and did not complete my mission. I took a huge risk and in this instance it did not pay off. I was devastated. I tried again and got an amazing job and was all set to leave again and embark on an amazing adventure, however, this time it was logistical problems that kept me from my goal as the particular visa I had was not adjustable.<br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">I can't say that this year has been a complete waste as I have achieved some amazing things:<br /></div><ul><li>one year anniversary with my boyfriend, we may not have stayed together had I been overseas</li><li>worked hard and earned a nice sum of money that I have invested and has allowed me to be financially independant</li><li>enrolled in the most amazing dance school and expanded my dancing repertoire. I live and breath dance.</li><li>met some really amazing people.</li><li>and of course starting this blog <br /></li></ul>And so, the next chapter of my life is almost on me and I have decided to work hard to achieve the most important goal that I will ever have in my opinion, becoming completely and totally independent from my parents. For this particular goal I will be giving myself one year.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">DECEMBER 2009 - NOVEMBER 2010<br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">In this year I will do the following:<br /></div><ol><li>Get a job that will support me completely with the aim of paying my rent 6 months into the year</li><li>Complete my honours degree in psychology and pass with 80%</li><li>Change peoples lives with my community and volunteer work</li><li>Get a paid internship for after graduation</li><li>Apply for and get into my Masters in either America or London</li><li>Apply for and qualify for a full bursary for my Masters</li><li>Save up enough money for a two month backpacking trip through Europe in 2011</li></ol>In preparation for this over the next two months i will be:<br /><ol><li>finding an apartment that comes in under my budget</li><li>sending out my resume and applying for jobs</li><li>cleaning out my room and throwing away so that I can move everything </li><li>working to earn as much as I can so that I can support myself</li><li>doing research on different schools and bursaries that I can apply for</li></ol>Posting all of this here is an extra motivation for me to achieve my goals as I know that all of you will be reading this. I am also going to be posting progress reports every few months to keep myself motivated and on track. I really feel that I need to achieve these goals to prove to myself and my parents that I am a success and not a failure.<br /><br /><i>I apologize that this is a little bit of an intense post and not along the lines of my usual articles but I feel it is important to myself that I share my story with you. Hopefully I will inspire you and together with the help each other achieve all our goals.</i><br /><br /><i>If you have any big goals or life changing decisions that you would like to achieve start your own PROJECT - name it what ever you would like, even the same as mine and leave the link in the comments section or email me so that I can support you in PROJECT. </i>

PROJECT INDEPENDENCE

This past year has been a hard one for me as I planned on it being something completely different to what it turned out and have really been...

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Encouragement

<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/SnCIm-LZvQI/AAAAAAAAAB0/pRFSnhxt0To/s1600-h/20080929223129.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5363937359305489666" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/SnCIm-LZvQI/AAAAAAAAAB0/pRFSnhxt0To/s320/20080929223129.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 320px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 195px;" /></a><br /><span style="font-size: 78%;"><a href="http://www.weheart.com/entry/127083">Image</a><br /><br /></span>Everyone's definition of success is different and just because someone else doesn't understand you and your goals does not mean that they are any less important and worth of your time. Success does not come quickly, its takes time and you appreciate it more in the end. Do not let anyone make you feel like what you think, feel or are is any less worthy than what they think or feel you should be. Press forward and pick yourself up after each hurdle that is put in your way. It just means that the more you overcome, the more successful you will be one day. And remember, success does not always equal money.<br /></div>

Encouragement

Image Everyone's definition of success is different and just because someone else doesn't understand you and your goals does not mea...

10:30 AM

Remembering who you are

<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/Sm7fA-Ec1jI/AAAAAAAAABs/0ICkW7geoTE/s1600-h/20080929231515.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5363469413999498802" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rDDO2quPfZk/Sm7fA-Ec1jI/AAAAAAAAABs/0ICkW7geoTE/s320/20080929231515.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 238px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 320px;" /></a><br /><a href="http://www.weheartit.com/entry/127105"><span style="font-size: 78%;">Image</span></a><br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;">In a world where we are constantly bombarded with images and advice on every aspect of your lives telling us how to act, dress and be it can be very easy to forget who we really are. One can get so caught up in trying to be who we think we should be according to society and the world around us.<br /><br />So, my challenge to you is to find that one thing that reminds you who you are. That thing that inspires you to break the mold's and conventions of "what is expected" of you and be who you really are. The thing to inspire you to put that pretty wrap dress on instead of resorting to jeans and a t-shirt.<br /><br />Its should be something that you wear everyday and is part of your everyday ritual of getting ready. An accessory that you wear everyday, a perfume that you love, a lipstick colour that gives you confidence. Find that which represents YOU whomever that may be.<br /><br />So take up the challenge and find that which represents  the fabulous that us you!<br /><br />*eLLa*<br /><br /><br /></div>

Remembering who you are

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